Do you know the wholesome benefits of Comfort-Parenting?
Comfort-Parenting is this: you face your parenting challenges in a way that comforts both you and your child, absolutely.
This means you create a solution to suit the child and bring comfort to both of you, rather than picking the solution first and attempting to mould the child to the solution (tears or distress included). With Comfort-Giving, you listen and watch your child’s emotions and create a supportive and safe response based on their current emotional needs.
Why is this so yummy?
Everyday we are learning more about the effects our words and emotions have in our lives. The words we utter and thoughts we think bring more of the same into our lives. The emotions we feel come back to us multiplied. My friends and I see this in our lives repeatedly every day – if you don’t yet, you may start to if you BELIEVE it can be true. 🙂
The beliefs we have about ourselves as adults create our lives, our bodies, and the people and environment that are attracted to us, without exception. You will bring into your life what you feel you are worth.
We know it is important as adults to reach a higher or more positive ‘vibration’ to attract more of what is good into our life. To do this we need to feel good about who we are, feel safe, feel like we have choices and can create the life we want – and feel free to think and say positive thoughts.
To help your children feel happy, loved, respected, and safe, you can help them send out positive vibrations to the universe and attract these vibrations back to themselves multiplied. LISTEN and RESPOND to your child at a very young age, including babyhood, and help them achieve their dreams (no matter how minor or ridiculous or inconvenient they seem).
If a happy child equals a happy parenting experience, maybe you will find Comfort-Parenting is worth a try?
- Respond to your child’s tears immediately.
- Never invalidate your child’s feelings. Listen and show that you understand their dilemma and work your hardest in that moment to create the solution your child needs (within safety means).
- If your child is hurt, soothe them and show respect, love and care for their body.
- Give your child as much time as he/she needs to feel comforted.
- Never complain about your child’s behavior, personality or wishes where he/she can hear you.
- Be your child’s best friend.
- Show the same respect and response to other members of your household.
Day by day we aim to repair our bodies and have trust, faith and optimism for the future. You can join me as I walk to wellness in the private facebook group Joanna Haley Homestead (Journey to Wellness)
Joanna Haley, Author